We spend so much time preparing for our births. We thoughtfully choose our care team and write letters kindly asking loved ones to refrain from visiting until we have had our first moments together as a family. We take 38 classes about what labor will be like, how we are supposed to breathe, how to touch the laboring mom, how NOT to touch the laboring mom, what our breasts will magically start doing after birth, how to swaddle (and even still, it is hard!), and how to wear th